The unfed mind devours itself.

- GORE VIDAL -

About Us

 

“Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask and he'll tell you the truth” - Oscar Wilde

Hidden Conversations is a forum set up to give people an avenue to unburden themselves through talk therapy. Our aim is to create touch points where users can anonymously exchange experiences, stories, advice and just generally help each other cope a little better with life and mental health.

We have created a safe space by giving users Aliases and cut out a lot of the features of your typical social media platform. No display pictures, no followers, just conversations.

We hope you enjoy Hidden Conversations as much as we have enjoyed creating it and look forward to getting feedback on your user experience.

We implore all users to please adhere to our community guidelines, so we can keep this space safe and positive for all.

Thank you and happy conversing.
The HC Team


There are certain things in life

you must figure out by yourself.
- Hidden Converations -

Our Approach

 

The basis of our work draws from the Human Givens approach to therapy and counseling. Whatever our cultural background, we are all born with essential physical and emotional needs and the innate resources (tools, or guidance systems) to meet these needs. It is because these needs and resources are incorporated into our very biology that they have become known as the human “givens”.
When our innate emotional needs are not being met, or when our resources are misused, or not used at all, we suffer considerable distress, and so can those around us.

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Fundamental Emotional Needs:
Resources Nature Give Us To Meet This Needs:

Source: https://www.hgi.org.uk/human-givens

Our fundamental emotional needs are:

  • Security – safe territory and an environment, which allows us to develop fully.
  • Attention (to give and receive it) – a form of nutrition.
  • Sense of autonomy and control – having the volition to make responsible choices.
  • Being emotionally connected to others.
  • Feeling part of a wider community.
  • Friendship, intimacy – to know that at least one other person accepts us totally for who we are.
  • Privacy- opportunity to reflect and consolidate our experiences.
  • Sense of status within social groupings.
  • Sense of competence and achievement (from which comes self-esteem)
  • Meaning and purpose – which come from being stretched in what we do and think.

The resources nature gives us to help us meet these needs include:

  • The ability to develop complex, long term-memory, which enables us to add to our innate knowledge and learn.
  • The ability to build rapport, empathize and connect with others.
  • Imagination, which enables us to focus our attention away from our emotions, use language and problem solve more creatively and objectively.
  • Conscious, rational minds that can check out emotions, question, analyze and plan.
  • The ability to “know” – that is, understand the world unconsciously through metaphorical pattern matching.
  • An observing self – that part of us that can step back, be more objective and be aware of itself as a unique centre of awareness, apart from intellect, emotion and conditioning.
  • A dreaming brain that preserves the integrity of our genetic inheritance every night by metaphorically defusing expectations held in the autonomic arousal system because they haven’t been acted out.


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Email

hello@myhiddenconversations.com

Address

Canton Concourse: 12 Landbridge Avenue, Oniru, Victoria Island Lagos.

Call at

0814 389 3982